Having problems with your Thai girlfriend? There can be a lot of different reasons why you might be having problems... cultural misunderstandings, lack of trust, lack of freedom, jealousy, or something else altogether.  However, the most common reason we are hired, is to investigate Thai girls who have foreign men as boyfriends, husbands, or fiancée.

Many times, the guy has met a girl in a bar and in most of these cases this is a recipe for disaster, especially if the guy is unaware of the bar scene and has little experience in Thailand and Thai culture, and the current wave of materialism that has gripped Thai society.  Most men involved with Thai bar girls are living abroad and met the girl while he was here on holiday, normally for the first time.  It is very easy for a foreign man to be lured in by the charm and beauty of a young Thai woman, especially a young and sexy Thai woman, like those who work in the many bars and go go bars here in Thailand.  Men who would have a hard time getting a hot looking girl at home can can overwhelmed by a young and beautiful Thai girl who can sweep him off his feet, and right out of his sense of logic and reason.  

It all seems to start out so well, everything is all roses, there you are hanging out together, having great time, doing things together, having a blast partying and living it up in Thailand and enjoying the time of your life.  But then... eventually you’ll have to go back home and that is when all the problems begin.  At first you won’t think much of it, but then suspicions and excuses pile up creating doubt and concern.

They have a story for every problem that may arise including water got in phone, I was sleeping, I was taking a shower, I was at my Mama’s house way out in the boondocks upcountry (no phone signal), buffalo broke leg, you name it, the excuse is there.  The fact is that many times they are telling the truth, but we find that much of the time it isn’t the truth at all and in fact the reason she can’t pick up the phone is because you will hear the background music in the disco she is in, or you may hear the guy she is with talking in the background.  Not all Thai women are like this though and there are a great many very good girls who are working in bars, but they haven’t been there long enough to get turned into the hardcore bar girl yet.  Still, many western men seem to have a lot of problems with their Thai lady.

Does this mean all Thai ladies who work in bars are dirty rotten scammers?  Of course not, and in fact, some of the girls who work in bars are very good girls who just don’t really have much of a choice and join up on the bar scene for a short period of time in order to make some money to help take care of family.  The problem arises when they spend too much time in the bar and greed and the influence of hardened bar girls takes them over, then you have a problem.  Of course, in most cases you aren’t going to find the girl of your dreams working in a go go bar, but there have been many success stories of guys who have met girls in bars and ended up getting married, starting families and living happy lives, it’s just that we don’t often hear of that too often these days as we had in the past, times have changed and so has the attitude of many Thai girls who work in bars.

So, what can you do?  First of all, don’t go looking for a sweet and innocent Thai lady in a go go bar because chances are you aren’t going to find her.  If you are fascinated with Thai women and want to meet a good Thai lady, try going to regular bars or clubs where normal Thai folks go, only remember, you will be much better off if you have a Thai friend who can go with you and act as your liaison between other Thai people, and especially good Thai ladies, of which there are many!  Just don’t ogle and act like a sex tourist because you will get nowhere.  Pubs are a good place to start as there are many Thai women who are fascinated with foreign men and they might go to a good pub to mingle with westerners.  Many clients have a Thai lady/girlfriend but live in another country.  When things go wrong, or suspicious activities arise, it may be time to call in a Thailand Private Detective/Investigator to help you get the facts.

So, how do you know if you have met a good Thai lady or not?  Here are some general tips.

Positive signs from your Thai girlfriend:

• Calls you often and is home when you call, or picks up her mobile phone when you call.
• Met in a pub popular with Thai people, restaurant, museum, shopping mall, city park, fitness center, through business contacts, etc.
• Doesn’t constantly hammer you for cash.
• Comes from a good Thai family.
• Has a regular job and is college educated.
• Didn’t meet her in a go go bar, beer bar, or disco known to be frequented by freelance prostitutes.

Problematic signs from your Thai girlfriend:

• Met in a go go bar, disco (Lucifer, CM2, Marine, Spice, Boss) outdoor beer bar, or Soi 7 beer garden.
• Doesn’t answer the phone or her mobile when you call, or hides her mobile from you when you are there, or moves to another room when someone calls.
• Constantly asks you for money for various reason including Father needs operation, Sister needs to go to school, phone broke, buffalo broke leg etc.
• Hearing other men’s voices in the background when you call her mobile.
• Hearing loud disco music in the background when you call her at 2:00 AM Thai time.
• Wanting to know your exact arrival date to Thailand weeks or months before you arrive (could conflict with another guy’s arrival).
• Doesn’t have a regular job.
• Disappears for days on end and then says she was at Mama’s house, but never told you she was going there.
• Anything dealing with criminal activity, drug use, etc.

Reasons you may want to hire a Thailand Private Detective/Investigator to investigate your Thai lady/girlfriend:

• Has your Thai lady/girlfriend ever worked in a bar, go go bar, beer garden, or is she still working in a bar, go go bar or other nightlife establishment in Thailand?
   
• Was your Thai lady/girlfriend working in a bar, go go bar, or other nightlife establishment when you meet her, but now swears up and down that she has quit, yet when you call her late at night she either doesn’t answer the phone, or you hear loud music in the background?
   
• Does your Thai lady/girlfriend seem unavailable on the phone during times when she should be able to be reached? (like late at night)  Or do you get excuses like, water got in phone, dead battery, left phone at home, etc.?
   
• Does your Thai lady/girlfriend try to hide her mobile phone from you when you are around, or put it in silent mode and then disappear into another room if a call or sms comes through when you are present?
   
• Does your Thai lady/girlfriend seem to always have conflicting stories or stories that change all the time and just seem to far fetched to be reasonable?
   
• Does your Thai lady/girlfriend have more than one E-mail address or multiple user ID’s on Thai dating sites?
   
• Does your Thai lady/girlfriend have lots of nice designer clothes, a new fancy mobile phone, lots of gold, but lives in a shanty apartment and has no regular job that you know of, yet is still able to somehow afford all those things she seemingly can’t pay for?

There are many reasons why you might consider hiring a Thailand Private Detective/Investigator to investigate your Thai lady/girlfriend and the above mentioned reasons are just a few of the warning signs, but on the other hand, at times these things do happen (leaving the phone at home, dead battery, phone got rained on) but these things are only likely to happen once.  We are usually able to help in almost any circumstance as long as it doesn’t involve any criminal activity or is meant to harm another person in a physical manner.  If you suspect your Thai girlfriend is up to no good and you want to get revenge on her and ask us for help, you won’t get it.  However, if you are having problems with your Thai lady that concern you and you think something may be going on that isn’t okay with you, and she isn’t being forthcoming or cooperative, please feel free to contact us and let us help you discover the truth of the matter so you can decide what you want to do.

In recent years we have had a large increase in cases involving western women whose husbands are over here in Thailand frolicking around with go go bar girls and prostitutes.  Not only is it going against your wedding vows, but it is also a very dangerous activity that could have serious health risk in the form of sexually transmitted diseases that can be a risk to the family as well as the husband.  If you are a woman from a western country and you have been made aware what goes on in Thailand in the many go go bars and nightlife establishments there are here and you are worried that your husband, boyfriend, or fiancée may be having an affair with a Thai woman or a Thai bar girl or prostitute, please contact us and we will investigate the matter for you in a discreet and professional manner.  The fact is, we see it everyday and it is staggering just how many married men we see with bar girls and prostitutes who didn’t even have the presence of mind to remove their wedding ring.  If you suspect your husband may be doing something like this, contact us and we’ll get the facts for you.  The truth is out there!

If you have any other legitimate concern and need to hire a Thailand Private Detective/Investigator to assist you, please feel free to contact us at any time with your Thailand private investigation inquiry and we will do our very best to help you resolve the matter with a fact based investigation designed to help you know the truth, based on the facts provided.

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